Liar…

All humans tell lies. We tell little lies, some people tell whoppers.

The little lies we tell are often the grease of human interaction: “you look great” to the person who looks ok, but needs a confidence boost; “how lovely to see you”, well it isn’t, but at least I can be polite about it.

We tell those kinds of lies to try not to hurt other people. There are other little lies we tell that are not so positive: “I didn’t do it”; “I only took one”; “I’ll do it in a minute”; “I was going to do that next”; “That’s what I said”. These are self-protecting lies, we usually learn to tell them when we are small children.

If we have a critical parent, we can see these kinds of lies as necessary. But as we reach toward maturity we need to acknowledge that these are lies and to try to stop using them. They are destructive and undermine both our self-respect and our self-confidence.

They are sometimes more apparent to the people around us, who will come to see us as immature and self-serving. It is a behaviour that wins no friends.

But the people to really watch out for are the ones who tell big lies… like “I love you, but I can’t leave my spouse at the moment”. This is a big lie told by someone who puts their desires above your needs. They want to keep their lifestyle and have you on a string too.

This is a form of poison, it damages the liar, their spouse and the other person. This is the reverse of the first type of lie. This is the lie where everyone gets hurt.

There are other lies like this, they are all poisonous manipulation. People who perpetrate these lies will say almost anything to try to get you to fall in with their plans. The worse thing is, that they often have themselves convinced as well as you. There is something twisted in their heads that makes it possible.

Some of them, though, belong in a different league. They are the pathological liars. They almost have to tell lies, they will lies even when they have nothing to gain from it. Leaving the people on the receiving end confused. They will tell such outrageous lies that you find yourself thinking “no one would lie about that, what would be the point?”

The point is that such people are peculiar, their world view is alien to us. They are often, but not always, malicious creatures. They sometimes gain an admiring audience for the audacity and enormity of their lies. But, more often, they are lonely creatures who only attract other damaged souls.

So, can I recommend that if you find yourself telling lies other than “that was a wonderful meal” when it was only ok, that you ask yourself why you did and whether it’s a habit you want to keep?

If you want to meet open, honest people, the first and best step is to become one yourself.

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Green And Pleasant Land

It’s very, very scary at the moment. They are destroying everything. We have to hang on to what is really important, the people we love, the things we can actually do, and, if we feel strong enough (and there is no shame in not being strong enough) protesting and shouting about the ways our world is being poisoned and changed.

I am horrified by what is happening in Parliament Square at the moment. It’s like reading about (and seeing video from) America. Not English Bobbies, how could they behave like that? There have always been some arseholes in the police, we saw that back when they fought against the miners way back in Thatcher’s day (at her behest). She was the first Selfservative Prime Minister to declare war on the very people she was supposed to be working for. Her agenda was very personal and basically rooted in her fear of other people.

But moving forward to this week where Parliament Square is full of peaceful, legal protesters. Protesting at the inhumanity of the changes being forced on the British people by a government that has no real mandate. If a fairer political system was in place we would not be in this situation. It would have been a small change that would have done much to protect the freedoms that we already had.

The situation is more frightening for those of us not dependent on the mainstream media for our information, the fact that the BBC is not reporting the level of anger and resistance in Britain at the moment indicates that the fingers of control have reached further than we feared.

But even those not in the know are scared. They know things are wrong, they just don’t know the extent of the problems. They think that all we need to do is survive until the election and magically all will be returned to as it was before. I wish that they could be right. Unfortunately even the best case scenario won’t get us there. Things have been damaged and changed so much that some things cannot be undone.

Fracking is the most obvious and frightening ecological example. Once rock has been shattered only volcanic activity can make it whole again! All to get gas we don’t need, and an awful lot of us don’t want. As for the insane suggestion that coal should be burnt off in situ, underground… I can’t think of words that can describe the stupidity of it sufficiently.

I have never understood the mentality that thinks that it is OK to destroy and poison the natural world. We can’t replace it once it’s gone, there is “no planet B”… To quote Devo, “There’s no place like home to return to…”

Fracking leads to the poisoning of underground water sources. It is inevitable and unavoidable. There is no way that their industry can stop it. That means it will very quickly severely reduce the amount of clean water that is available to us. So, the air will be further polluted by the gasses they cannot catch (escaping from cracks they did not expect and will find very difficult to locate), and we will have to buy poisoned water, because free(ish) tap water will be a thing of the past.

Houses near fracking well heads will see their value plummet, the jobs created will be minimal, the gas extracted will only be a fraction of what is down there… and we can get more energy for less financial outlay by following the renewables route. We would have to suffer from terminal stupidity to allow fracking to happen in our, at the moment, green and pleasant land.